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Dying : A Family Rite of Passage by Maggie Vlazny, MSW When my mummy lost her dad it was unhappy, although not surprising. Till the day he died he spoke of getting well, wouldn't exhibit his feelings or let us let him know ours, and we all assisted and abetted his fantasy.

He hid behind the wall of an impossible dream because he wanted to, but that wall agitated my mum long after he was gone. Nevertheless it feels like there was half finished business. How well I can remember the fake gaiety of those last visits with him, the strain of fake grins and tears held under control. When death eventually comes we are poorly prepared. The doctors could offer us no kind of treatment, no additional time, no hope in any way. Initially I wished it might be any alternative way. Why not a coronary, an accident, something unexpected? What may be worse than the nightmare of having to just sit there and watch him die? We had so many questions. Should we let him know, and if therefore when? Might it not be more kind to guard him till the last possible moment from the misery we already suffered? And how would we handle him? We worried less over his close death than over the helplessness which must predate it. It's simple to get over whelmed and to loose a feeling of family and relaxation in our houses. Be concerned but find out how to say No, from time to time. Skiiing holidays. Plan mini retreats that give you a short break from your routine and permit down time where you can just hang out. Then get along with 1 or 2 other families whose company you like and book a night in the hotel. Bring swimming suits for the youngsters and an interesting book for yourself. You may also switch off the Television , phone, PC, and CD player for the night, cook a straightforward meal or order take out and tell stories or play cards or a board game. I learned more about my pop in those last one or two weeks than I had in 32 years, or could have in another 32. There had been a sense of wholeness in his passing with, instead of from, us.